2012 Word of the Year

We watched Tangled quite a bit over the holiday break in our household.  It’s a fun movie and I particularly like that Rapunzel does just as much rescuing in the movie as Flynn. (Spoiler Alert: If you haven’t seen the movie and want to remained surprised, skip down to the next paragraph.) When I took my girls to see it for the first time in the theater, I couldn’t figure out who voiced Rapunzel. She sounded familiar but I couldn’t quite make the connection until that pivotal moment when Flynn slashes her hair off with the piece of broken mirror. Instantly, Rapunzel’s hair looses it’s golden color and becomes dark brown.  This dramatic change from long golden locks to a short brown bob made it suddenly obvious to me who the actress was, it finally looked just like her –Mandy Moore! Her transformation allowed me, for the first time, to see who she really was.

Without overdoing the metaphor – I sometimes feel a little like Rapunzel- waiting for my “real” life to get started. I’m cautious and I often research something to death before deciding to take a leap. I engage in a lot of preparation for even the most mundane of tasks and one of the repeating loops in my head can be heard saying “Someday, someday, someday…”

I’ve mentioned before, I am not a big fan of New Year’s Resolutions in my own life. They are often one more thing to add in an already busy time and they are always the first things to drop by the wayside when cuts have to be made. What I find more effective is a technique Christine Kane uses; choosing a word to focus on for the year. This year I am pledging to start squeezing out the endless voice of “someday” and instead consider that things are possible right now. I want my life this year to be more of an action verb instead of  defaulting to the passive voice.  I’m going to do less prep work and more actual living. I’m going to come out of the tower and spend more time with my feet on the ground.  I will be the hero in my own story.  All of this will lead me to my word of the year:

TRANSFORMATION

What’s yours going to be?

 

 

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Thoughts on Resolutions

I’ve been reading a number of very inspiring blogs the last few days. People are reflecting on the past year and looking forward into 2011.  They are talking about changes they want to make in their lives and what the future holds for them. People are excited about their resolutions, sharing their hopes, goals, dreams and aspirations for the new year and it seems to me what they are doing is turning optimism into kinetic energy. People are asserting their own power and claiming their strength. The underlying message  of all resolutions is “I can change, I can be a better person and I can live more authentically.” Resolutions are pure creativity – they allows us to expand our thinking about who we are and what we are capable of doing or being. Resolutions inspire and have the potential to be not only life changing, but world-changing. Exciting stuff.

And although many resolutions crumble early in the year – think of all those packed gyms right now that will be desolate come the second week in February, it doesn’t have to be that way.  Resolutions are tough. We ask ourselves to stretch and grow beyond who we already are, which requires commitment, focus, and support. All three are critical elements. There is also a fourth element, which may be the hardest of all, forgiveness. At some point we will all wander off from the resolution; we won’t have time to work out for an hour, we’ll burn out trying to organize our office after the third day of going through the mountains of paperwork, we’ll discover learning to play the piano is a lot more challenging than we thought. And when we realize we’ve fallen, the urge will be to give up because clearly we’ve failed. It’s all or nothing, right?

Wrong. Those people who make it to the end of the year with resolutions intact are the ones who continued on despite the number of times they ran into challenges or fell off the path. You can always start again in the very moment when you realize you aren’t progressing toward your goal. Wandering away from your resolution is part of the journey. Count on it and it makes it easier to return back to the path.

I tend to create and evaluate goals continuously throughout the year, so instead of creating a list of resolutions each year, I resolve to do one thing; choose a word of the year.  I learned this from a fabulous coach and presenter, Christine Kane (www.ChristineKane.com). Some people call these focus words and it’s just what it sounds like. Each year I choose a word to focus on – usually something I need more of in my life, something I want to move towards in some way. I keep the word in my consciousness as much as possible and  I look for it  playing out in my life, which it inevitably does in some pretty remarkable ways.

Last year, the word I chose was “Yes!” It occurred to me that I reflexively said no to so much in my life. “No, I can’t take the time to do that for myself.” “No, that’s too hard, too scary, too unknown.” “No, I can’t make that happen.”  By embracing “Yes!” more often,  I went on new adventures, took more risks, paid attention to the present moment, strengthened relationships, acted more creatively and expanded my ideas about what was truly possible.

And yet, as 2010 drew to a close, I reflected on the past year, and it occurred to me how much time I spent dwelling in the negative, getting caught up in the sadness, the anger and the pain of the struggles I faced. I realized how much time I mired myself in the moments of fear and self-doubt, when I felt sorry for myself and sank into pits of anger. These were fleeting experiences and instead of letting them run their course and fade away, I often prolonged them, dragging them out and refusing to let go.

At the same time, when I look back, there were so many incredible moments that could only be described as magical.  It is clear that in most ways, I am truly lucky and blessed. I experienced powerful and transformative events, the likes of which I have never seen before in my own life. I met incredible people who continue to inspire me daily and have offered their gifts and talents for no other reason than their own personal desire to help. Relationships with people I have known for years suddenly deepened, appearing out of thin air when I needed them most. I took risks this year and met some pretty far-fetched goals. I went on adventures that illuminated my authentic self and expanded my vision of who I truly am.  When I see myself from this perspective, how can I not be blown away by the life I live?

So this year, my goal is to focus more on the magical moments, to give the light more power than the dark. I do believe we give energy on that which we focus, and this year, I choose to focus on all of those inexplicable and yet consistent moments in my life where the impossible occurs – propelling me forward, helping me to live my extraordinary life.  This year my word is “charmed.”

I can’t wait to see where it takes me.