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Kick It Like A Rock Star

I’ll admit it.  After I dropped the girls off at school today I was rocking out to Jon Bon Jovi. Nothing like a little 80’s hair band music to get me motivated for the day. The song was “Dead or Alive” and as I was singing along, one particular line struck me:

I’ve seen a million faces, and I’ve ROCKED them all.”

My first reaction was, “Well, Jon certainly thinks highly of himself, doesn’t he?” But as I thought about it, I realized he probably has done exactly that.  It might have started out as hyperbole but over the last twenty-something years I’m sure he has played for millions of fans. I’ve personally seen him live and he puts on one hell of a show.  When you listen to him sing that line, he sings it with conviction – he knows who he is and he’s not afraid to announce it to the world.

“Dead or Alive” came out at the apex of Jon’s career.  And yet, I know that was a sentiment he experienced well before he was playing to sold-out stadiums all across America. I’d even bet money that he spent time as a teenager in NJ imagining himself on stage in huge stadiums – hearing the crowd go crazy, squinting at the bright lights, pointing out to the audience and yelling, “Good night New York!”  He had the fundamental belief that he was going to rock the world with his music.

Imagine if you spent more time acting like a rock star. I’m not talking about buying a tour bus and partying all night with different people, and you certainly won’t get me into skin tight leather pants. I’m talking about the rock star mindset. It’s the “fake it ’til you make it” mentality, but (to steal from Spinal Tap), this one goes to eleven. It’s people camping out overnight to get tickets to see you, wearing your t-shirt, crying at the very sight of you kind of imagery. I don’t care if you’re writing the next top 40 hit or drafting a  business plan for your new accounting business. Because what often gets in our way of doing something is the fear that we can’t do it. So we spend all our time worrying and fussing and going over the “what-if scenarios” in our head over and over again.  We plan and research and plan some more and then we research again in case something new has come out. The result is we spend all of our time in the preparation phase and never execute the plan that could lead us to a new life, financial freedom, or could literally change the world. All because we doubt ourselves.

But not Jon Bon Jovi.  He knows he’s going to rock the stage – whether there are 5 people watching him or 50,000 people. There is no doubt about that from the moment he walks out onto a stage. And boy doesn’t he have fun doing it. Does he make mistakes? Sure. Did every song he wrote go platinum?  Not even close.  Is he still having an impact today and trying new things? You bet.  In fact, you should check out his newest adventure, The Jon Bon Jovi Soul Kitchen which has nothing to do with music and everything to do with changing lives.

This week I’m challenging you to channel your inner rock star. Walk with a swagger, feel invincible and know you have sold out the stadium.  Rock stars aren’t perfect, but the one thing they don’t lack is self-confidence. Trust in the awesomeness that is YOU.  Believe your own hype.  You are that great, you do rock the world and people are climbing over each other just to buy what you are selling. Spend a few minutes each day visualizing yourself as a rock star to the world and see where it takes you.

See you on your world tour.

You Can’t Wait to Want

I bought myself this t-shirt.  It makes me happy and feel a little deliciously subversive since the only time I wear it is when I hit the pavement. For those of you who are new around here, I started running for the first time since the 7th grade this past September.  I am a newbie, and not the evangelical-converted-you-have-to-try-running-it-will-change-your-life kind.  I’m more along the lines of an I’m-fairly-certain-this-next-workout-will-kill-me-I’m-so-out-of-shape newbie.

And yet, three mornings a week I put on my t-shirt and head down the road as soon as the girls get on the bus. It’s a thirty minute run, nothing earth-shattering, but I always feel better for having run. I experience a sense of accomplishment that stays with me for the rest of the day when I get home.

Here’s the thing though. I never want to run.  I want to have run. I want to feel better about my body, get into better shape, have more energy and lose a few pounds.  But I never want to run. And if I wait around for the motivation to do it, it will never, ever happen.

We sometimes think that if something is important enough to us we’ll want to do it. And that doesn’t always or often happen.  How many people have half-finished novels sitting on their hard drive, waiting for the motivation to figure out the place where the plot derailed? How many people buy gym memberships and never step foot into the place again?  How many people do you know talk about getting around to  __________ (losing the baby weight, getting a new job, figuring out what they want to do with their life, etc. etc.) someday?  The insinuation is that they are waiting for a compelling enough reason to stop their life and focus on whatever that something is. And occasionally people do get that kind of motivation –  a cancer diagnosis, an unexpected break up, a near-death experience or some other huge loss in their life. Hopefully, you are lucky enough not to have a tragic or scary life-changing event propel you into change.

And then, there are a few that decide if they wait around until they want something bad enough to go after  it, it will probably never happen. So they dive in. And they make the choice to dive in again and again and again. Despite the failings, despite the tedium of the steps towards their goal, despite the fact that they never quite want to take the steps.

It’s ok to acknowledge you don’t want to do something. But if it serves your bigger goal, you have to acknowledge that you don’t want to do it while you do it anyway. If you wait to want, you’ll never get any closer.

I will never want to run day after day. I wear my “Running Sucks” shirt to express those feelings…and then I run anyway. What can you do to propel yourself in to action for something you’ve been putting off until the day you “want to do it?”

Regina Verow is a life coach and workshop presenter who believes we can change the world one tiny creative step at a time.  For questions about coaching or to receive a free, no obligation coaching session, email her at

A Confession

I haven’t been writing very much. Maybe you’ve noticed?  What started out as a small break stemming from extended travel and a slight case of general burnout turned into several weeks of angst, stress and a general downward spiral into non-production. It’s been a case study in what happens when you (or more to the point, I) over-think a situation.

For me, it wasn’t only the not-writing I couldn’t stop thinking about.  Because that piece was easy to resolve.  Not writing?  Then write. It was all the other questions that flooded in like water from a broken dam – most of them having to do with whether or not I should acknowledge my lack of writing. Should I be honest about my struggle, do my readers care why I haven’t been writing, do I even have any readers any more?  I could go on and on, but you get the gist.  I was stuck in the vortex of over-thinking. When I finally deconstructed my inertia and resistance I realized I had two options – Start writing again as if nothing had happened and move forward or acknowledge my lack of posting and move forward.

Over-thinking is the opposite of action. It’s inertia combined with fear, stress, guilt.  It’s the expectation that if you consider something long enough, going over and over it in your mind and checking for the smallest of nuances, eventually you will figure out the perfect resolution. Except, there is no perfect resolution.  There is only resolution and action moving you forward.

So this week I made a decision to write about not-writing instead of ignoring it.  For me, that’s the authentic choice. Authenticity isn’t about being perfect, in fact, I think the two are actually opposite dynamics of each other. And when it comes down to it, what I strive for most in my life is being as authentic as I can. Which means I choose to be imperfect…often.

So I think of this blog as a lesson in authenticity for me. Thanks for reading. I’m looking forward to getting back into the groove from here.